The biggest scandal today is the affair between Astronomer CEO Andy Byron and his subordinate – HR Director Kristin Cabot. Both are married but their intimate actions were exposed when they were caught on kiss cam at Coldplay concert in Boston (USA).

Astronomer CEO Andy Byron and Chief People Officer Kristin Cabot

While this kind of incident is rare, it is not unheard of. In 2020, during a friendly match between Barcelona SC and Delfin in Ecuador, a couple was caught kissing in the stands during halftime.

When he realized he was on the big screen, the man immediately withdrew his hand and looked very confused. It turned out that he had cheated on his girlfriend with another girl. After the incident, his official relationship broke up.

The incident occurred in Ecuador in 2020

These examples leave netizens with a series of questions about the psychology of cheating couples. Because in an era where every concert, every football match, every tourist area,… has a livestream, passersby raise their cameras everywhere, the fact that cheating couples still hold hands in public is not only shocking but also raises a big question: Why do people choose places where cheating is easy to be discovered? Is it carelessness, an indiscretion that cannot be hidden, or a challenge?

This is actually the result of many complex layers of psychology behind it.

Feeling invisible in the crowd

Like a drop of water falling into the ocean, many people believe that when they are in the middle of tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of concertgoers or a crowded airport, no one will pay attention to them, they will be invisible.

Returning to the case of the couple caught cheating while watching a football match, the Mexican sports newspaper Record commented sarcastically: “If you are thinking of cheating on your significant other, a football match, in a stadium with thousands of people in the stands and millions watching on TV screens, is the last place you should go… unless you are a die-hard fan of Barcelona SC in Ecuador.” .

The reality is that the bigger the event, the higher the probability of having cameras and the easier it is to detect. With the dizzying speed of social media, just one frame of a misplaced hand or passionate kiss is enough for netizens to “reveal” the whole truth behind it. And it is not difficult to guess what the consequences will be.

“I am different from others, I will not be exposed”

Many people who commit adultery have a typical mentality: I am very careful, I am better at hiding it than others. When watching cheating cases exposed online, they often think that it is because “other people are careless”, “they are foolish” while they are “subtle”, “have a plan”, “don’t leave any traces” so they will not be discovered.

This mentality makes them build an illusion, believing that they will control the problem, that no one will know about their wrongdoings. But only by not doing anything will they not be discovered, and the needle in the bag will eventually come out. Everything can fall apart with just a strange text message, a random kiss on camera at a concert,…

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Like to try thrills when having an affair

Having an affair is not just a secret love affair. For many people, it is also a journey to find excitement. Traveling together secretly, going to concerts, holding hands in public without being discovered is a stimulating “bet”, as if entering an emotional survival game together.

It is this thrill that makes them so engrossed that they are blinded to the consequences.

Want to be discovered unconsciously

In the subconscious of all of us, everyone has the desire to own, to be legitimate and no one wants to be in the dark for too long. Therefore, it sounds unbelievable but many couples unconsciously choose crowded places with the desire to have the opportunity to make their relationship public.

From another perspective, some people who commit adultery do not dare to break up their marriage. So instead of being decisive, they secretly create “loopholes” so that they can be discovered. Then everyone will know about it and they do not need to confess to anyone.

The fact that cheating couples choose concerts, tourist attractions, football fields,… places that seem easy to hide in the crowd – is actually a combination of illusion of safety, impulsive emotions and unresolved internal conflicts. They think that among thousands of people, no one will notice them, but they forget that… the camera does not forget anyone.

There is no place crowded enough to hide an affair. If you choose to cheat, choose to lie and don’t have the courage to face the consequences, don’t expect sympathy.