Steph and Ayesha Curry have been married since 2011 and have four children together. But Ayesha recently made an admission about her family life that has sparked some debate online.

In a recent interview with PEOPLE, Ayesha Curry said that she considers her relationship with Steph the priority. She explained that focusing on her relationship first allows them to raise their kids as “two happy people.”

“I think for us, our relationship always comes first. Then we’re parents,” Curry said.

“That works for us because then you have two happy people raising the kids in the house. So the family sector in our lives always comes first.”

The statement quickly sparked debate (though partially due to a misunderstanding of what Ayesha Curry said).

Some users on X have pointed out that this is the correct approach. Some reasoned that both parents being happy has a trickle down effect to the kids, while others pointed out that kids eventually grow up and move out, leaving the parents alone.

“Smart couples know this. You can’t forget and neglect the actual relationship for the kids. What’s gonna happen when the kids leave the house and now you realize you don’t even know who the other person is because you’ve focused on solely the kids for the past 18 years…” one user remarked.

“That’s literally how it’s supposed to be. The couple come first always because it was just them before kids and will be just them after the kids grow up.”

OAKLAND, CA – APRIL 01: (L-R) NBA Player Stephen Curry of the Golden State Warriors and Ayesha Curry attend the “Stephen Vs The Game” Facebook Watch Preview at 16th Street Station on April 1, 2019 in Oakland, California. (Photo by Steve Jennings/Getty Images)

But others feel that any relationship that doesn’t feature the children as the primary focus is a bad one to begin with:

“This is why ppl don’t marry, priorities are misplaced and parents aren’t teaching their children anymore they’re letting the world do it,” another argued.

“Didn’t know Ayesha was so foolish and selfish. I’m sure Steph would say kids come first.”

While we don’t usually take sides when it comes to debates on how to build and raise a family, the logic behind ensuring that the parents are happy with each other first is kind of hard to ignore.

Do you agree with Mrs. Curry’s take on her marriage priorities?